You got stories too, eh? I presume you took your departure recently?
It took me several years to start putting it behind me, including alcohol, drugs, a few suicide attempts and years of therapy. I still harbor anger and depression toward them, but I'm glad to remember there's still a few genuinely good people in there. Unfortunately it seems like you have to dig through a lot of bad experiences to find them.
I didn't have much of a life at the time. The fandom was all I had, then it turned on me because I had the audacity to say I was being harassed and bullied as a straight man, and right after I returned from my grandfather's funeral earlier that day.
They were for sure an activist group with a hard-on for being victims when they weren't being horny. I can't tell you how many "friendships" were cut short when I didn't want to change my sexuality and let random guys use my butt. Even had one of my two closest (and last) friends at the time be the first to suggest it was my fault, calling my suicidal tendencies a joke and comparing the harassment to a "bad fart." I later learned through a backup source that whenever he would porn-spam me (after telling him to stop repeatedly) he was hoping that, once again, I would become gay for him, and he wasn't happy.