or, to quote knuckles from sonic boom; "anytime someone calls attention to the breaking of gender roles, it ultimately undermines the concept of gender by implying that this is an exception and not the status quo"
Use an actual facet of the character's life outside of their gender to make the argument more interesting; Say 'being a woman is hard' because it's easier and, ironically, more sexist because it focuses on her gender instead of her job