Another (and separate) problem is how loosely "phobe" labels are thrown around. Like, calling me a transphobe for saying "I keep asking for a definition of LBGTQ, but I can never get a straight answer" really cheapens the term. If the bar is that low, the word loses meaning. It's like crying wolf. It becomes shorthand for "the person saying this is incredibly brittle". And then what do you call a person who is truly and toxically intolerant? I'm a dick and use poor judgement from time to time, but my trans friends would laugh at me being called transphobic.