Phew, I'm glad you're safe now, Snek - the fact that you got handcuffed really scared me TBH - also I said "sir/ma'am" because I know that you're genderfluid and I was futureproofing the statement so that I wouldn't be inadvertently misgendering you when your gender changes again in the future - plus, I didn't know what your gender was today, so I had to play it the safe way by saying "sir/ma'am".
I'm sorry about the lengthy explanation (and that you got handcuffed); is there anything I can do to help you feel better?