i have mom issues

You need help

i know

Yeah

:)

Thank you

My meme I made in response is solid advice... Not a dig.

I dont openly tell her or my therapist about my problems. She finds out from going through my personal stuff that I've told her multiple times to not look through, then she gets mad at me for it a blabs it all to my therapist

My kid knows nothing is personal. She'll be 16 this year, at any time of any given day - anything can be searched. Her mom and step dad or myself... Have purchased everything she loves.

In turn, she doesn't give us a reason to need to look through anything personal. She's not in with troublesome students, gets descents grades, and works when she can for her own money.

In return - I've been putting cash away in an account, so she'll have a nice $10K graduation present. We treat each other with respect.

It sounds to me like you have strong feelings about what you believe - which are in direct opposition of what your mom believes. I'd imagine your mom had a much stricter growing up scenario than you have - or didn't have a great family situation herself growing up. Which has turned into a fervent struggle to hold everything together - trying to be a glue to the family. Then your ideals come to light and all of that starts breaking down.

She then feels like a failure, rejected, and like she has no common ground. So - she lashes out.

nope. she had a great childhood. lots of toys, sisters to play with, and both my grandparents love her. And she's just incredibly nosy and can't keep her hands to herself. Thats how she found out my mental problems and started sending me to a therapist. I recently went to my therapist, and afterwards she said,"If you EVER write or draw that stuff again, i will smash your tablet and computer, then i will throw away all your art."

What are you drawing?

vents.
about dark stuff.

Sounds like you need Family Therapy.

Lots of sisters and toys doesn't make a great childhood. Kids were much worse with bullying in her day. Sounds like she's religious. Even lots of love doesn't make a great childhood.

But both of you need to get together in front of a professional and talk about things.

Yes, she is religous, and pushes them onto me. We already go family therapy, and when me and my siblings are honest about our feelings towards her, she gets mad and grounds us when we get home

I'd start there in the next meeting. "So last time, we shared our feelings and she grounded us as soon as we got home"

i would do that, but i don't talk much at those, especially stuff like that. Cause i have ✨Social Anxiety✨

Do it anyway. I had social anxiety until I just started including myself and speaking up - major bad.

but its really hard for me to do that

It isn't. You only believe it is.

Have you considered cutting her out of your life permanently

Oh yes

But I can't because I'm only 13 and can't do anything

Same

yes you do

no kidding :')

ok?