I know it's really long, but any feedback would be great! I did my best with portraying my true feelings and emotions here.

I’m so proud of you :’ you can do it! :D we support you completely :)

Thank you very much; I appreciate your support and kindness in these difficult times (*^▽^*) I, too, will always support you 💖

Np!

wow this is amazingly well written~ 'gender is the poetry each of us makes out of the language we are taught' - leslie feinberg. you did an amazing job of explaining nuances of being trans through acessible examples

Thank you very much! ヾ(≧▽≦*)o Writing has always been a strong-suit of mine, and so being able to come out via letter was rather nice for me (stressful, too, of course-). And that quote is one of the best I've heard in a while! Thanks for sharing it, buddy (❁´◡`❁) As for explaining nuances and whatnot, I did my best with it, but also had a lot of help from friends to put it all together! Though it took a lot of time, work, and effort, I believe it was worth it in the end *^____^*

oh yeah, here is where i found that quote https://www.behance.net/gallery/131892843/Epicene

Must be nice to be brave enough to come out and do this i can't even tell my friends

Trust me, I'm not nearly as brave as I may seem. I literally just got finished packing my bags, just in case they don't accept me. Besides, if they don't accept me, I literally have no other choice than to leave and go stay at a friend's. I already nearly killed myself just the other night due to unacceptance, and so I don't want to have to stay here and stand on the edge of death. It's f**king scary as Hell, man. It may take guts to write a letter, but you know what? It doesn't automatically make you bravest person alive. It's nerve-wracking. It's horrifying. If my family ignores all of what I poured into that letter, even the suicide thing, then it's simple: I can't stay here. And then what? I have no idea what the f**k I'm gonna do. I don't want to be a burden to my friend and their family, but who else am I supposed to stay with? And how am I supposed to get all my stuff back? It's not fun. It's not even brave. It's just being true to yourself, and making sure those around you are good enough to you. Because if they're not, then they're not even worth the bother. It's a difficult thing to go through, but it's for the best - for me. So don't try and put me up on a pedestal for being "brave". I am merely trying to do what is right for me, and that's f**king scary. I'm. Not. Brave. I'm only doing what's right.

Better than me tho

Took me so long to read but awesome!!!

Thank you; that's great to hear! ヾ(≧▽≦*)o

I plan on coming out soon, but I don't know how I'm gonna do it (⌐■_■)

I must admit, finding the best way to come out is always going be a struggle, unfortunately. However, if I may, I highly suggest finding your strengths before coming out (your talents; the things you're good at in life). For example, one of my greatest strengths is my skill regarding writing and ability to put emotion into words. With that, I was able to form that coming out letter, all by myself (however, I did have *substantial* help from my best friend. That being said, never be afraid to ask a close, supportive friend for advice and support regarding coming out!). After you assess your strengths, go online and conduct some research on ways you can come out. Get creative, if you're good at art. Form a deep and meaningful letter, if you're good with writing. Bake an LGBTQ+ cake, if you're good at baking. And, most importantly, have fun with what you're doing! Be proud of whatever way you decide to come out, and just put yourself in your parents' shoes. Look at what you're doing to come out, and ask yourself:
"Does this get my point across?"
"Does this explain everything in a way my parents will understand?"
"If I were my parents, how would I react to this exact thing?"
And other such things.
Hope that helps, and best of luck, friend! ヾ(≧▽≦*)o

Thank you! I will try to remember all this-

No problem *^____^* And feel free to copy and paste that into a Google Doc or something, just so you can have easier access to it whenever you need to refer back to it!

❤I know you don't know me, but i'm so proud of you, love! You're honestly more honest and confident then I could ever be, and i'm just so proud! I send you all my support and good vibes❤

Thank you very much. I'm not in a very good mental space due to everything that's been going on right now, so your words are greatly appreciated <3

Good job

Thank you! ( •̀ ω •́ )✧

This is very brave and I'm already really proud of you. I can tell you put your whole heart into this. I only have two little things I would change:

In the opening you keep saying things like, she can take as much time and read as slowly as she needs to. That sounds a bit like she's not very good at reading or a bit stupid, and I'm sure that's not what you meant. I would rather phrase it a bit like, "take as much time as you need to process this". It's not the reading that will take a long time (although it is a very long letter... 😅) but the processing what she read. And generally I would want to "offend" her as little as possible - especially in the beginning. Again, I know you didn't mean it like that but one could bring oneself to think that.

The part about being gay seems like an afterthought so late in the letter. I would probably put it a bit earlier, probably just one paragraph up - after you've talked about the surgeries and name changes but before the "I hope you're not mad at me" - that seems more like an ending.

Other than that, well done. Like I said, I can feel you pouring your heart into it. Good luck! ❤

Thank you very much for the positive feedback! O(∩_∩)O However, I never did notice that the way I worded her being able to take as much time as she needs *does* have a bit of a negative connotation to it... I will, therefore, fix that as soon as I can! Thanks for pointing it out (✿◡‿◡) And, yeah, I wasn't exactly sure as to where to put the gay part, and I guess that shows- I'll move it to your accord then, thanks again! This really helped me out a lot, as I want this to be as clear and effective as possible for my grandma. Thanks for everything though, from the support to the luck (´▽`ʃ♡ƪ)
Also, I was wondering: Should I mention a binder, or no? Because I really, really want one-

I think for now it's just important that she understands. When she has accepted everything and you're comfortable talking about it together she will ask how she can help. Then you can talk about the next steps - like a binder, more masculine clothes, haircut (although in my opinion boys look better with long hair too), name change (that's one for when you've told all of your family), perhaps puberty blockers if not hormones,... Just remember that it will take time. Coming out is a big step but it's only the beginning. It's difficult and often frustrating that it takes everyone so long to adjust. Just keep in mind that you now have known for a long time that you're a boy - you have lived with this knowledge and have gotten used to it. Everyone else you tell is starting at zero. Try not to overwhelm them. 😉

I mean, in my letter, I added a simple "Also, perhaps a binder as well? They’re just to give me a flatter chest, as that would make me feel a lot more comfortable in my body." at the end of the paragraph regarding surgery. I know it'd probably be best to not overwhelm her, but I'd feel extremely uncomfortable speaking to her about a binder face to face. Hence, I wrote it in the letter instead. Maybe that'll still be okay? I think so, as it's a rather simple sentence; therefore not overwhelming (at least in my opinion). As for the other stuff, like hormones and all, I'll bring that up when the time comes (and, yes, guys often look a lot better with long hair to me, too). Well, unless she doesn't accept me, that is. If that's what ends up being the case, I've already got my bags pre-packed so that I can leave the house and stay with a friend until everything is all worked out. Besides, if my family doesn't accept me, even after this letter (which, mind you, even talks about suicide, a *very* serious issue), I legitimately can't stay here anymore. I mean, I already almost offed myself the other night, and so I don't want to be risking pushing myself into that again by staying here any longer, you know?

You can do it! 💪 I'm right behind you putting my hand on your shoulder if you need it.

Thank you for your support, I really appreciate it - every bit of it <3 I'm planning on sending the email on (this) Friday morning, as the friend who says I can stay with them has off of school that day. That way, if things go awry, I can send them a message, there'll be no school to interfere, and so they can come and pick my ass up 😩👍 However, I'm hoping things go smoothly. For the rest of today and tomorrow, I'm gonna watch videos on tips of coming out, just so I know how to better address the situation for when my grandma is ready to talk. Not only that, but we get to dog-sit my dad's friend's two dogs, so I think that'll help ease my stress, too. Besides, dogs have a lot of mental health benefits to them, you know? Additionally, the one dog is a husky, which is my favorite dog breed in existence ヾ(≧▽≦*)o

By friday you'll be so prepared! 😅 And yes, doggos always help. I grew up with dogs and it was the best thing ever. I always liked animals more than people and my dogs were my family. Dogs always accept you as you are and they love you no matter what. ❤

I hope I'll be- 😳 As for the dog thing, I'm glad to see that you agree. And you got to grow up with dogs? Shi, I only ever got to grow up with fish 😔 Either way, I prefer animals over people, too, and for the same reasons as you. After all, animals won't judge you for a simple sexuality or gender identity - especially dogs. They're the most wholesome, loving creatures on Earth. We truly don't deserve them <3

OMG THAT IS AWESOME!!!! took me forever to read it but great!! i honestly think there's a bit too much formatting (bold, italics, etc.) but that's ok.

Thank you very much, as I genuinely tried my hardest with it *^____^* Also, there's no bold or anything; just italics. However, I am very much aware that I may have overdone it with the italics, but yet did it on purpose - to empathize my points and try to get the overall message across in a "louder" manner.

there is bold - line 4 and 5 on page two.

No, I wrote it, so I know there's not. However, the italics can make things appear bold. Maybe that's what's happening, because I genuinely don't see it? My apologies.

odd... anyway, still great job!!

Yeah, sorry :\ But thank you anyways! 💖

Yeah!!!

I made a youtube video of all the support i got. you should go see it!! https://youtu.be/V4Dpg_3IWmo

I just watched and gave it a like, and wow! That was truly beautiful, seeing how a community came together and got you through such a difficult task (❁´◡`❁) I'm super proud of you having gone through with all of this, and super happy that you've been accepted (even if it's only by your mother, for now)! It's definitely inspiring, and inspiring me even *more* to come out myself. However, getting the timing right is gonna be tricky, as I don't want to send the email when my dad is home, and then my grandma doesn't even check her email all too often- However, I'm sure I'll figure it out, eventually (✿◡‿◡) Thanks for the motivation, and stay amazing, friend!

Thank you so much. you are so awesome! you got this!!