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I am a 15 male. I recently came out as bi-sexual to my friends and they accepted me and everything, they also are apart of the lgbtq community. I havnt came out to my parents even tho i know for a fact they would support me and not judge me. I am a sporty person and i am in soccer and wrestling. I havnt came out offically at school because i dont want my sports career be over. I feel like this would happen because our school is very republican and anti gay. Me and my friends are bullied constantly, i feel like my sports career would be over because 99% of the soccer team is anti gay and same with the wrestling team. I feel trapped between how i feel and what i want to do. Part of the reason my friends and i dont get bullied too much is because im a wrestler and people know not to mess with me and i fear if i lose wrestling i could lose the reputation and that would leave my friends vulnerable. Please give me advice, idk what to do anymore

Hello thatpersonrightthar

Think about how important sports is, if you want to express yourself, don't limit yourself because of your peers. Many people stay silent because of peer pressure, I have gone through the same thing. If you feel like you want to be accepted, it might be best to move schools.

Hi thatpersonrightthar

I'm afraid that the only solution to your problem, if you're not willing to fight for it, is to transfer to another school; otherwise, you must endure silence until you graduate.

But if you're willing to fight to stay on the wrestling team you can contact organizations like the ACLU that, in case you were threatened with removal or have been removed from the wrestling team then you can sue the coach & if necessary, the school so that you can rejoin the wrestling team.

However, you must gain testimonial & documentary evidence of bias from the involved as well as those around them. Also it might also be a lengthy & costly legal battle & you certainly would not win the hearts & minds of your conservative peers; but if it is a public school & not a private one then they're not allowed to discriminate against you based on your sexual preference.

If you can obtain the aforementioned evidences then you have a very good chance of winning. But be prepared for external hostilities.

Thank you, the only problems I is with transferring, my family would have to move cites,since there is only one high-school in our town. The problem with the other option is that the problem isnt the coaches, its the players in both sports. This is why i feel trapped i feel the only solution's is too stay quiet about my sexuality. I cant sue other players, since as far as i know they havnt done anything legally wrong. I dont mean to sound like a downer and reject your ideas, i really F-ing appreciate it but i just dont know if either of those are the solutions. I really appreciate what you do though uniform, going to random people you have never met and giving them advice on how to deal with their troubles. You are a good person.

I see, the wrestlers themselves.... Yes, they cannot be sued nor forced to wrestle with you. I am sorry for what you're going through, and I hope that things will be better for you. Will you be graduating soon?

Thank you, I appreciate that.

I will graduate in 24 if all goes to plan. Its just an extremely tough spot for me and im glad I got some advice.

I hope things get better even tho I am younger I am very empathic so I hope things get better