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I never really questioned my gender because I didn't feel like I was in the wrong body. But in my early 20s I started to feel weird when people called me a "man" - mostly because of toxic masculinity and not agreeing with what people call "male" behavior - and especially when I had to enter my gender in forms or applications and there were only two options. Neither option fits because I'm neither a man nor a woman.

I identified simply as non-binary for a long time because I was still looking for what exactly I am. There are so many different ways of being non-binary but most of them were not me. I just never felt like I was particularly interested in having a gender, didn't care what pronouns people used for me,... So, I tried out considering myself pangender, agender,... neither really fit.

All the while I grew more and more tired of the whole concept of gender. It is only a social construct afterall and what characteristics make you "male" or "female" differs from society to society and no version ever seemed to consider me as either end of the spectrum.

I became more and more fed up with the whole system until I came across the definition of apogender and most of it felt like me. I still don't like calling it apogender and usually just identify as "I don't see a point in having a gender" instead. All I know is I get very happy when I can choose not to give my gender in a form or pick something like "other" and when people call me "it" instead of "he" or "she".

I realize that especially the professional world simply isn't ready for it yet so I'm ok with being seen as a man professionally - I consider it playing a role whenever I'm at work.

TL:DR, my path toward realizing what I am is about as complicated as what I am is.

oh I see this helps thanks

I didn’t feel like a girl. I didn’t want to be a girl.
So, I decided I wasn’t.

Same

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This is a very very weird way to decide, but I never really felt like I was exclusively one gender and hated stereotypes of any gender, but I found out I was non-binary when I was in the 7th grade and this one kid said they were non-binary and preferred he/him and they/them pronouns, did some research on it when I got home and it fit better than male or female

oh okay thanks a lot

I never understood the concept of gender, Thus, I never cared about it, And now, I'm Pangender

oh okay

It started when I was like nine and I started not feeling connected to my sex, and then later I realized i was a lesbian and was looking up more LGBT terms to see if their was anything else that fit, and I discovered non binary and you know when something just fits, it's nothing like that. It's more "wow that's cool" then it's "well I think that's a cool term, but it's not me." Then I started not being comfortable with my chest, and then it was "you know what yes I think that dose fit," it doesn't feel like your whole immediately it can take months, for you to feel comfortable.

oh i see thank you this helps

I’ve got to agree with Reaper_God_Of_Games here, it’s the same for me.

okay

So i never really felt like i was in the wrong body, but when i was around 10-11 i felt weird when people used she/her pronouns on me, and i didnt really know why- then i started feeling super uncomfortable in the feminine clothes i was wearing, and i got rid of my feminine clothes when i was 12. I found this stream, and tried a pronoun closet, i think thats what its called, and decided i liked the pronouns they/them, and the label nonbinary fitted me

oh okay thanks

Right now I'm a demigirl, but I'm thinking about being non binary. My reason is, I have no idea why gender and gender stereotypes are a thing! Just let that sink in. Gender is completely useless in my opinion.

hm okay

Ok forget what I said. Idk why I said that I just should have kept it in my head. If you want to have a gender than you can. I'm not saying it's bad! Girls boys and everything in-between is ok. That was just a random thought I had one day and I now realize it can be offensive to people. I'm sorry

oh no, I'm not offended I'm okay with your opinion I knew what u meant don't worry!

Oh ok thank gosh

i didnt like being a girl