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It just pisses me off on how I say use they/them and they keep using she/her.

It just pisses me off on how I say use they/them and they keep using she/her. |  Small kinda vent/rant here; So I came out to 4 of my closest friends already as non-binary and pansexual. They all said they’d start using they/them pronouns on me. However, they still use she/her on me and it’s making me kinda annoyed. I complained about this to one of my friends yet she still does it. I really don’t know what to do since I don’t wanna keep correcting them on it. | made w/ Imgflip meme maker
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Kids violence is never the answer | i continue to use she/her pronouns with my friend even though they clearly told me their pronouns are they/them | image tagged in kids violence is never the answer | made w/ Imgflip meme maker
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Lmaoooo
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0 ups, 2m,
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but i think i have a solution to your problem
1 up, 2m,
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H m
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The answer, use a gun, if that doesnt work, use more gun | image tagged in the answer use a gun if that doesnt work use more gun | made w/ Imgflip meme maker
1 up, 2m,
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Use gun on myself?
G o t i t
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0 ups, 2m,
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no
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y e s
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0 ups, 2m,
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use gun on friend
1 up, 2m
but friend is good
1 up, 2m
you see god is right, violence is never the answer. IT IS THE QUESTION AND BOY DID THAT KID IN RED ANSWER IT.
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Maybe they’re trying not to out you to other people? I’m not taking sides, just saying it’s possible. And I would say that you should try firmly, clearly expressing your very urgent need for these new pronouns and tell them they need to use they because using she is hurting you. And, if they don’t stop using your old pronouns, maybe they’re not the right friend?
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I don’t believe they’re trying not to put me to others. My friend and I show each other our conversations with others because it’s funny, and I see two of my friends who know I use they/them still calling me she/her with each other. So I don’t think that’s the reason. And I do believe they’re good friends, Ive known them all for 4 years or more and we never had problems with each other.
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I really don’t know then, but I would say to very strongly express your pronouns and talk about how they need to respect you as your long friend should.
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*long time friend
1 up, 2m,
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Get a pronoun pin?
1 up, 2m,
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My parents don’t know and idk if they’ll accept me
0 ups, 2m,
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well, you can ask them "what if somebody who you knew was (insert sexuality/gender here)"
1 up, 2m
When Demi Lovato came out as non-binary my mom seemed very transphobic. But they have told me that if i like girls that’s fine. So.
0 ups, 2m
Theyve not adjusted yet. It took me 2 years with one of my friends.
I go by she/her but I refuse to correct old friends because they deserve to call me whatever makes them happy. Even if its Dave lmao

Though I understand why it irritates you.
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For me, it took time. I know it's really hard for you and its really bad, but you have to be patient. If they are still doing it in like 3 months though ,,,, you should just cut them off ngl
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I came out to one friend 2 months ago, my other friend one month ago, and my OTHER friend like a week ago.
And I’m trying my best to be patient, I corrected them before and they still do it but I’m sure that’s cause i’ve known them all for 4+ years.
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Oh, well good luck to you. It's a very hard thing to do, coming out to your friends, so good job!
0 ups, 2m
Its probably just an old habit sometimes I accidentally use she/her on my friend but I try not ot
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@-WeirdoMonk- vented. vote off
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No
They lied
Sus
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It takes a bit of time for them to get used to it, I'm sure they'll get it eventually
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Unlearning someone's pronouns when you have known them for years can be difficult. It takes time. Now, I don't know you, I don't know your friends, and I don't know the situation. But as long as they are sorry when you correct them and are actively trying they're not doing it to hurt you. I know it sucks to be on the receiving end of misused pronouns but just take into account how long they've had to get used to they/them for you. You have probably known you're non-binary for a lot longer than they have so you've had more time to get used to they/them and for you it probably feels natural by now. For them this will take a bit longer and that will be a difficult time for you constantly correcting them and I'm sorry about that. But as long as they're trying it will get better and they will get it eventually.
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I have known mu friends for 4 years or more, so I do understand it is difficult for them to use by correct pronouns, but I had corrected one friend when my other friend texted “Tell (real name) to answer her phone” and then she responded with “Oh sorry” then texted “She’s charging her phone” So that makes me slightly annoyed
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I know it's annoying and it hurts and especially when you already have a bad day it seems like they're doing it on purpose. And I'm sorry there's nothing I can do to make it better. It's going to get better. Just try to stay calm when you tell them. Maybe you can just talk to one of them at a time and tell them how it feels to you. But also tell them that you know it's difficult and that they're not doing it on purpose. Maybe show them how to use it correctly. When texting, just ask them "instead of saying "she's charging her phone" could you say "they're charging their phone" please?" You're not working against them - even if it can sometimes feel like it. You're working together to make it better for everyone. They're trying to make it feel good for you but you should also try to make it normal for them. And it takes time and patience. But if you work together I'm sure you can do it!
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Small kinda vent/rant here; So I came out to 4 of my closest friends already as non-binary and pansexual. They all said they’d start using they/them pronouns on me. However, they still use she/her on me and it’s making me kinda annoyed. I complained about this to one of my friends yet she still does it. I really don’t know what to do since I don’t wanna keep correcting them on it.
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