I'm posting this here because I saw it here.

I experience the same thing but with older siblings.

It doesn't really trigger me, but bothers me and reminds me I'll never have a normal family

My "father" and mother are divorced because my "father" was trans later on and is now my other mom

so yeah idk, it's sorta bothersome but I can't really complain because I guess it's my problem not theirs, I dunno

Learned

Well yea, if someone is talking about how great and fun their dad is its kinda a trigger bc it kinda reminds me I might never have that

But why should they feel bad or stop talking about their happy family? Like my father left but I don't feel the need to be upset When people talk about their "fun dads" and happy families.

This isn't to be rude I honestly want to know.(My father ran away because he got my mom pregnant so I understand the pain)

learned*

Why would that trigger anyone?

For me its bc
1. I never know what mood my dad is going to be in. He will usually be either nice enough till I make one little mistake, or just sour.
2. He’s not always exactly supportive. When I came out to him as lesbian he used the “its just a phase” thing.
3. Going back to 2, I never feel like I can talk to him. My mom had to litteraly force me to come out to him.
4. He never gets involved in things that r important to me. He never comes to my soccer games or piano recitals, he doesn't even TRY to understand my interests.
5. He’s a really bad perfectionist. If I’m not perfect, he blows up. Its not rlly child abuse bc he’s never hit me, but theres some pretty bad self esteem issues.

Well, For one, Not all fathers are like that

And honestly, He sounds like a very bad father

Yes I know not all fathers are like that. I’m just saying mine is and thats why the discussion of fathers triggers me.

Fair enough