Hi Jotaro... brace yourself, this is going to be a hard thing to swallow. :(
I was wondering who CULE_DOOD was referring to at first but realized that he was referring to your pastor.
With that, I'm afraid that he's not wrong at all with regard to barring women from pastoralship in the scriptures.
With regard to gender roles, God is not just holy and righteous but also the God of order. That order is reflected in all things (ex. mankind is above all created things, and of course, God is above him - Genesis 1:26). Even God Himself is ordered in terms of headship and subordination (ex, Isaiah 48:16-17), and that Trinitarian headship He intended to be reflected in the family unit (1 Corinthians 11:1-2).
But in case one might think that the lower orders are inferior, by no means; for if God is the head of Christ then does that make Jesus inferior to the Father? No (Philippians 2:6). Therefore, just because the husband is the head does not mean that his wife is inferior to him.
And so with regard to pastoralship God intended man to lead; it was implied in creation (as man was first created, then the woman to be his helper - Genesis 2:18. 21-23), so it is in the church (1 Timothy 2:12-13). This unfortunately was further solidified when Eve sinned, which further barred her from leadership (1 Timothy 2:14).