With divorce so common it's encouraging to see couples still in love after so many years. My parents just celebrated 35 years

1. Be humble enough to admit when you're wrong
2. Don't go to bed angry, learn to be the first to say I'm sorry and the first to forgive.
3. Do little things to show your affection, not just when you're dating but after the wedding too.
4. It's not a 50/50 relationship, it's 110/110. You have to give your all, plus some, every day
5. Have fun! You married your best friend, marriage is an adventure of a lifetime.
6. Remember the ups when you have the downs
7. Say I love you and really mean it, every day, call them if they're not around.
8. Be honest, discuss important decisions, agree before you make a move, you're impacting not only yourself but the whole family.
9. Don't go into marriage expecting to change the other person, it won't happen.
10. Keep prayer at the center of your lives, pray together, pray for eachother and trust God who brought you together will keep you together no matter what.

Too soon?

https://www.google.com/search?q=5+languages+of+love

Humility and grace go a long way. My wife and I are not without our squabbles or issues, but there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. We celebrated 11 years in January, for a total of 14 together (dated 3 years). Little things like snagging a kiss on the way out the door, leaving a note here and there for the other to find, and lots of God make things stay together!

Congrats! and all very true. I'll be 8 years married this September and I can say it's the little things that make a big difference.

Our kids are starting to move out. We have taken time to rekindle our marriage and learn each other again. We both changed over the years. We are going on 20 years now. Also don't put hobbies and selfish desires over your spouse. Do not yell, talk.

"Do not yell, talk."

This is huge. Everyone has a "style" of arguing that they learned while growing up. My family was quiet, we resolved our disputes in a mild mannered but stubborn and passive aggressive way which fosters bitterness. My wife's family is loud, and they argue by yelling and lashing out...and eventually forgive each other after they calm down but the collateral damage is evident. I have learned to respond to her anger with calm, and most of the time it's contagious. Her readiness to forgive after an argument has taught me to not be bitter, and my stubbornness to not give in to flamboyant arguments and diffuse has taught her to approach with more caution. We've learned from each other, and now many arguments (while still passionate about our sides and opinions) are resolved with much more calm results. I'm amazed at how much we can learn from each other just by observation and respect, even when we're upset.

I agree. I grew up in a very abusive home. There are horrible yelling and violence. I have learned to be calm and speak with her. It has been a journey of discovery and learning about each other. We are more in love now than even in the beginning. When you learn to put the other persons needs over yours most of the time it shows them you really care for them and want to be with them. Selfishness has no place in a successful marriage.

As it should be :)

And congrats on 20 years as that approaches, you've really reached a victory milestone that many today would never dream of! God bless you and your wife.

Thanks, It has been a miracle we made it that far and hope for 20+ more.

Naked nerf gun games after the kids grow up is also a plus

OOOOOOO, I'll bring that one up. Thanks.

Communication

The secret to a happy marriage? It's the same as the secret to a happy relationship. Don't be in a relationship to be in a relationship and don't get married to get married. If you need to be in a relationship to feel happy the relationship will not make you happy. If the other person is supposed to fill some sort of void in your life it will never last and it will feel very forced very quickly. You need to be happy and have a fulfilled life on your own first. Only if you are already happy can you tell if the addition of another person is actually adding to your happiness overall. Because if part of the appeal of starting a relationship with that person is starting a relationship it is difficult to tell how exactly the person themselves will affect you. In the long run, the novelty of the new relationship will run out and all you're left with is the other person and if that isn't enough the relationship won't last - with or without rings. But if you've found someone you want to have a relationship with even though you don't want a relationship it already doesn't matter if you get married or when because that is someone who will make you happier than you were alone.

Wise advice. And true. Ain't nobody or nothing can fill that hole in your heart. Hope you're doing well Wite 🐇

Moving is a bit stressful but other than that I'm doing pretty well, thanks. 😊 Hope you're feeling grate (sorry, couldn't resist) as well. 😉

Oh, yea, good luck with moving, it's no fun. I especially don't recommend purchasing a house online, moving 1,500 miles across the country with 4 kids by road in the middle of winter a week before Christmas 😂 I hope you get settled in soon and enjoy your new place. Oh, and I'm feeling grate now, thanks for asking!

Well, judging by that list I guess we're doing it right. 😅

Vaffanculo ragazzi 😠

Working out differences

Happy Anniversary to your folks!

Don't have experience, but I think that trust is the main thing. If you can't trust your partner you can't trust that you like the relationship your in. If your partner doesnt trust you, you can't trust that their happy in that relationship

I’m not sure tbh. What I believe is that there is a set person out there who you will find at some point. But there isn’t a “secret” to it.

Condoms

Wally Warbles: “Can I help you?”
Grim Matchstick: “C-can I help y-you?”
Wally Warbles: “...What do you do?”
Grim Matchstick: “I-I d-do it all.”
Wally Warbles: “Have a seat.”
Grim Matchstick: “I w-will, b-because that's s-something I can d-d-d-d-d-do.”

It's been 10 years before I was born before the Cuphead game was out and I was happy....

:)

Why the f**k are you posting this on a think tank meme?

I highly recommend an occasional abortion to stop problems before they start. Guilt does not belong in the decision to stop an unwanted pregnancy.