hmm, well, i found this on the interwebs, i hope it might help
While it is in many ways a liberating process to acknowledge who you are to others and receive some support and validation for just being you, there are a lot of prejudiced people in the world. Some would hurt you, insult you, and generally go out of their way to make you unhappy if they know you are gay or lesbian.
Why do they do this?
Lots of reasons.
Personal discomfort is likely the top reason. People who feel bad about themselves often need an “Us” and a “Them” to organize their world. The “Us”‘s are invariably good, moral, smart, wise, good looking, and generally the backbone of the society. The “Them”‘s are bad, immoral, ugly, stupid, and the downfall of society. Simply put, being so sure that you are “sick” and immoral makes me feel healthy and righteous.