More info in comments, I guess.

Okay so basically, I met someone through a mutual friend over a year and a half ago. Going on two years in feb.
We quickly became close friends, and talked to each other every day, meeting with each other (and the mutual friend) frequently.
He came out as bi a bit over a year ago, and I supported him in that.
He eventually confessed that he had a crush on me after about 4 months of keeping quiet, which took me by surprise, but gave me the perfect opportunity to ruminate on my own sexuality for a while, which was something I had been meaning to do.
After about a month of thinking about it and considering it daily, I figured that I was probably pan. (Albeit slightly demi)
Afterward, following a little more rumination, I realized that I really did love him back, and decided to be in a relationship with him.
It went really well, and things were actually looking up in my life for the first time in almost half a decade (save for a short time a few years prior), and then... the virus hit.
We stayed in touch, and it was great being able to talk to him frequently, having a phone and all.
And earlier, I heard that my parents supported my cousin after she came out as gay, so I had hope that me coming out would be smooth, but boy was I wrong. It was a bit of a surprise to them, but my boyfriend, who had visited about half a dozen times, radiated enough gay energy to tip them off a bit.
Anyway, they said they'd try to get me a councilor to basically confirm I was what I thought I was, which, 4 months later, they still haven't done crap about, and they also decided to tell me to essentially break up with him, though we can still be friends. Ha! Like that ever worked! You can't just force someone to break up and expect that to last for more than a couple months tops.
At the same time, my boyfriend was forcefully outed by his parents basically constantly asking him (which I think my parents might have caused, despite me asking them not to).
And his parents are being more harsh to him now, and his sister has to try to defend him, to the point where when he and his sister were talking to their actually-accepting aunt, they were brought to literal tears. (And I feel like, if my parents are responsible for getting him forcefully outed, it's my fault for starting this). So now we've been together for 10 months, but we've had to keep it a secret for 4 since coming out, and it's been a struggle.
So... do any of you have some advice...?

i can help gone through the same thing

What's your advice?

well just let them think what they want to think

Mk

Just let it out. You can be close to your family and still express feelings. I'm sure they'll understand.

Yeah, but they're super adamant about 'getting me a councilor' first to confirm, but it's a frickin pandemic where everyone is stuck in their homes, so any councilors or therapists are currently stacked to the absolute limit because the rates of domestic abuse have shot waaaaay up

Oh, im sorry

It's fine, I guess. I'm just looking for a way to get out of this rut. Sure, there's waiting, but it's getting hard to juggle school, writing, my own wellbeing, and my relationship without letting one of them slip as a result of the others. It would be easier if I could use them to bolster the others instead, which I was doing, until the pandemic hit.

Dont give up!

I won't. I'll keep trying. It's hard, but not impossible.

You can do it, love ya (in a platonic way lol)

Thanks! Love you too.
(Also platonic XD)

Why are people doing this. People can love who they want, and yet people are oppressing people who love the same, or no gender,or have their gender changed, or have no gender, or change between. Its a free f**king country, and yet people are getting bullied for it. I have lost some faith in humanity

Same. Yeah, people do that a lot. I mean, what good does it do them? Love is love, period. Full stop.
My parents say they're being supportive, but I can tell they probably don't want me to be pan.
Which is ironic, because my mom's sister had a friend who was gay, and my parents are both supportive of my cousin, who's also gay.
So, y'know, that's quite the double standard, but whatever.

That, my friend, is one large bruh moment. My parents are, Icy, with the concept of LGBTQ+, so I know how you feel.

Lesbian
Gay
Bi
Transgender
Queer (genderqueer)
|after this is the extended acronym|
Intersex
Asexual
Pansexual
+(for everything else)

can you explain what these are? (Already know what gay and trans are tho)

Lesbian is when a female is attracted to a female
Bisexual is when you are attracted to TWO genders
Queer is when your gender may shift over time
Intersex is when you are BORN with reproductive organs that do not fit with each other, like testicles and a (insert female reproductive part).
Asexual is when you have no SEXUAL attraction to people, but can still be attracted
A sub term of Asexual is Asexual Aromantic, or AroAce. This means you do not feel attraction, period.
Pansexual means you are attracted to ALL genders, including, but not limited to: trans males, trans females, genderqeer people, nonbinary people, intersex people, all the demis, pangender etc.

sorry for the paragraph lmao

jfc
as a nonbinary perso, i can relate to you
two words
trucking karens