We only hit our eldest as a child because they needed toughening up and gaslit them into thinking we didn't because we didn't hit the other one; We ignored their severe health issues but moved country because their sibling couldn't stop getting in trouble in our small town; We forced them to take our house tenancy after we moved out, but made them live with us so we could spend their disability money and their sibling could pretend it was their house and save up; We don't play favourites with our kids...