It was jaw dropping. I went through a divorce, my first wife who grew up Christian, took out kids to church with me, put up the front had an affair and destroyed our marriage. I didn't know about the affair and prayed for God to restore things, but her heart was too hard. I take the part about not thinking more highly of yourself than you ought, and thinking more highly of others than yourself pretty seriously, her, not so much. All during the first month I had a pain in my chest that kept getting worse, I prayed more for restoration, it was torture not being around my kids. There was an old expression that someone pined away and died of a broken heart, at the end of that first month I found out about the affair and I was dying of a broken heart. I finally reached all I could stand, the pain was unbearable and I cried out, LORD! I can't take any more, I'm going to die!" In that instant I felt something reach into me between my collar bone and my shoulder on my left side, straight to my heart, straight down through me and touched my heart and the pain instantly went away. Now I don't imagine things, I am totally a reality based guy and I was stunned. There was no question that something very, very significant had just happened and I sat there dazed, I couldn't believe it, but it was very real God had touched my heart with His finger and healed it. The pain never came back like it was. My ex would do some very hurtful things and I would get a low ache, always manageable, never to that sharp intensity I had been experiencing. And when it hurt all I had to do was say, "Lord." and the pain would soften. With my first wife it was one of those "love at first sight" things. We were both long distance runners in college, both went to church, both wanted a family, both worked hard, real compatible and we married about 18 months later. Anyone can be on their best behavior for a year, some people can mask the "real you" for a couple years. But you really need time to see how a person treats others, no one should be afraid to take their time. I looked at it as a lifetime commitment, she saw it as a disposable convenience. She's on her 4th marriage now, I dated my second wife for 5 years before we married, she's a solid believer and the most incredible lady on earth. I knew she was a gift from God when I met, but we took our time and we never neglected worship, allowing a solid foundation to be established before we married. This year is 23 years. Stay on the path you