Feminists are not interested in equality. If they were they would champion causes such as identical prison time for identical crimes, guaranteed equal custody rights in the event of marriage dissolution and shelters for male victims of domestic abuse. They not only do not support these things but actively campaign against them.
In fact, Erin Pizzey, the woman who started the first women's shelter in the UK, decided to open a men's shelter as well when she learned that a lot of the women who suffered this violence were also very violent themselves. Not only did she receive no support for the initiative as she had done with the women's shelter, but she was ruthlessly harassed day and night by feminist agitators, eventually being forced to flee the country altogether after they murdered her DOG and dumped the body on the doorstep.
Look her up if you don't believe me. The 'extremists' you're talking about are the rule, not the exception.