I think in general you should be able to share most everything with your spouse (that's a different level of a relationship than a boyfriend girlfriend or partner) i remember being hurt when my husband decided not to tell me he had been laid off until he had gotten his last paycheck thinking it would worry me. Well to me that is something both people should know to be able to work through options together. Financial decisions, childrearing, things that affect the entire family should be a shared thing. Otherwise you risk breaking trust and just causing more unrest.