Sometimes I feel very alone because I've never really met anyone who is adopted to talk to

I know many. Most we know through our adoption group that we are members of, but my brother in law is actually adopted. You'd never know it unless someone told you, he's one of the most genuine people you'll ever meet.

Sorry you feel alone Kate, I can't say that I know what that feels like. I don't share your experience, but if you ever do want to talk I'm here! Contrary to my usual antics, I can be serious too :)

Thanks Thparky, I consider you one of my closest friends here on Imgflip, I know adopted people too but only children of friends fro church who've adopted and whom I can't really strike up a conversation about what it's like to be adopted. I once met another girl who was in the convent with me who was adopted but she didn't really want to talk about it. I suppose there are support groups and such I could find (I once was on a facebook group but it was only people who hated the fact they were adopted so I left that one quickly) I look forward to adopting a child in the future so I can have that other perspective. Like you and other adoptive parents :)

That would be awesome if you were to adopt a child, I can only imagine the bond you would share! And how awesome to give back to the cause by returning the same love that was given to you all those years ago! As I've mentioned before, my adoption agency we went through doesnt operate in texas but it's still a great resource, its called Bethany Christian Services, check out their website, you may find a way to get connected in a positive way instead of the FB group you mentioned. I hate that people out there have had bad adoption experiences, it's such a wonderful thing. But, we all have to find our own way, and some are just going to be negative by default. I just wish more people had positive outlooks, ya know?

i’m not adopted myself, but I have a friend who is.

The only fellow adoptee I've met is my mother in law... Our stories, interests related to adoption and experiences are wildly different to the degree we can't really bond around that. But we still care for each other... It's frustrating.

It's amazing how different everyone's experience around adoption can be. But I guess we're all united in the fact we're looking for that missing puzzle piece.

I remember one time when I was about 12 finally meeting a fellow adoptee at a party and she was probably in her 30s. It was a brief conversation but we instantly had a special bond. I never saw her again though. It's just so hard to meet them unless you're in a designated adoptee group because we look like ordinary people in ordinary families sometimes. When I see a mixed family I sometimes wonder if anyone is adopted but I'm always too afraid to ask. It's almost taboo to talk about it.

Very true, though to be honest, I had a friend growing up who was in-family adopted, but my mom spoke to their adopter & it was decided that we shouldn't speak of it, so I knew. I don't know if they knew. But our adopters made it this hush-hush thing... And I don't count that experience as having met or spent time with a fellow adoptee as we couldnt discuss our adoptions together.

Another time I was told a fellow adoptee would be joining our group which was lunching at a park so all the kids could get to know each other. It was an attempt to have a homeschool group with more people involved. Well, I was given permission to speak to the person. Go up to them to intro myself. Said hello multiple times. Was completely ignored while they prattled on to new friends they were making, some of which were my own long-time friends who did notice I was being ignored and kept looking at me hopelessly while trying to let fellow adoptee know someone was speaking to them. I finally just walked away. I was around 10yo.

Ouch, I'm sorry you experienced that. People can be so rude sometimes but I blame the parents most times. I'm glad I've found you as a fellow adoptee friend! 💗

Same here! I'm happy to have found some community online.

Why is it such a banned topic that even adoptees themselves aren't allowed to talk about it? I feel like that's why it's an explosive topic online because we've been shut down all our life from speaking about it in person.

I think in that specific situation, the other adoptee was in a family circumstance which made it potentially unsafe or terribly upsetting to the adoptee if word got out too much. And when that's the case, I can so support it. My adopters were open to me discussing it, for the most part. But I also wonder this.