Am I a burden?

Burden - NOUN - a load, typically a heavy one.

I'd say a burden as far as people goes is when someone or several people are charged with caring for a person who is not able to care for themselves. Think of someone taking care of an elderly parent or grandparent with Alzheimer's disease. Has someone told you that you are a burden, and why? If not, why do you think you are one or might be one?

No, nobody ever told me that im a burden, but I feel that way sometimes.Ive been told I have people pleaser syndrome in the past by a pathology professional, which explains why I feel like a burden,becasue I feel like unless im able to do everything for a person, I get scared that they wont need me anymore, and it scares me, so I always prioritize them over myself.But, that usually backfires, and I end up not being able to do the thing, mostly because I collapse from pure exhaustion, which has happened a few times.And if I cant do the thing, that just means I am just existing, and that makes me a burden.

You must be young. Hormones can play ping pong with your emotions when you are young and it's no laughing matter. What I can tell you is life actually gets better as you get older. It takes a while, your first job will probably suck, your first apartment probably won't be that nice, your social life will feel forced.

Then as you get older, you will gravitate towards a job you want to do and are good at (it will still have bad days, that is normal), you will be able to afford a better living quarters, as you get more comfortable with yourself, you will be more receptive to others that are also comfortable with themselves.

Don't let now control too much of your life, it gets better.

Well put sir.

My wife is a people pleaser, my advice (if you want it) is dont expect anything in return. She does so much for others, and then doesnt get reciprocation and it really weighs on her heart and mind. But, if you do something nice for others and dont expect anything in return, you can just count that as a jewel in your crown :) dont label yourself a burden, that takes away from your self worth, and you are worth quite a bit! You just gotta find that worth in yourself and embrace it, own it, even show others...that is called confidence, and you are able to have it even if you feel you wont ever achieve it. Its possible, trust me. Boma is right as well, as you age things will become easier, but every challenge you face along the way is an opportunity for you to become stronger, more confident, self reliant, and you will develop a can-do sense of "adulting", hang in there! And stop that being down on yourself.

I understand how you feel. The problem seems to be that you live for other people and not for yourself. Don't get me wrong. Your selflessness, righteousness and honor are very praiseworthy and you have my respect for them. But you must live for yourself a little and stop caring what others think of you. If you can't help yourself, you can't help others, either.