Hide the Pain Harold

Okay so I gave a job. Which i cannot take take off to go to a camp wheremy family has gone to for 16 years. I worked there one year my sister worked there the next. I did want to work there after the first year i worked there. I was bullied got in sine trouble for things i dont wish to talk about (nothing super bad. Nothing legal okay) but God taught me. But i felt like God didn't want me work there. So last year i went it was awkward camping there.
Now to this year. It is a Christian camp that lately weve been disappointed wity certian things. The dont handle there staff well. Some kids disobeyed curfews who were considered good kids and were leaders in a way. They never got caught. Some kids are bullies ( i was bullied by these guys i worked with them) they never get in trouble. Anyway i saud i dont want to go back yadda yadda.
So yesterday my dad who is staying home with me is driving my mom and sister's up to the camp.
Now i have a friend from new New Jersey that i only see there ive been friends for while and in fact our families get along very well. So i wanted to see him for a few short hours and also see a girl that i think i might have crush on she is 16 so it a little embarrassing but she is a sweet girl and likes me and is again a real sweetheart.
Well long story short i didn't see my friend there were running late. I chickened out didn't really talk to the girl (i wish i did) and i didn't want to go home.
And im moving to produce and im not sure if i want to be there.

So yeah life just hit me in the nuts hard

I know. It sucks like heck man. The part with the girl hurts the worse.
See i slightly ignored her not rudely, just embarrassing, because well family not my dad or mom bit aunts uncles sisters.
As i said she kinda likes me. I hope i dont come off as not interested in her. She is such a sweetheart. She isn't a super model type. Just a real simple person to me she is ver attractive. Her smile her hair her ways. Uuhghh what the heck im in love.
Why cant girls see us acting wierd know were trying to show we.like them with out telling them

Females are very hard to read

Not her. My family saw right away thatbshe likes me. I knew her from a couple years back. When i worked there. When my sister was there the following. The girl told my sister things she noticed about me. Gosh the more i think about it. She could be the one.
DARN ME!!!! I HAVE SCREWED UP!!!

Ask your sister to help you

Yeah, she tries i think.

She's 14 right? She should be old enough to understand then

The girl is 16.

My sister is the same age

My bad

Np

I just wish i could talk to the girl not. Say howni feel about her. Just say catch any baseball or something else catch up on times

Take the oppirnity!!!! Seize the day!!!!

Well probably be another year

Take your girl out for ice cream

Should but she lives in Rhode island

I understand your pain. My crush lives 600 miles away from me in nj

Wow. Well at least Rhode island is close s maybe

Detroit

Yeah

Oh

What

Upper peninsula

I have to travel an 1 hour away to the nearest state but 20 mins to another country

Lol

And south to Canada

Upper

Okay, I see you have a few unpleasant turns here. Unfortunately work will not always let an employee off for things like that. Unless you have vacation time of course. I'm sorry you missed camp and seeing your friend. Now this girl, is this the only time you would have seen her? Are you friends anywhere on social media? Maybe you two can get together sometime later? I know you said you were not able to bring yourself to talk to her, but online it would be easier I think. It's always more difficult in person.

I hope so. I dont know if she has social media. I dont. Yeah this is yhe only tone i would have seen her. I dont know if shes the right one. I hope she is secretly in my heart. But i think my sister text her time to time. Anlso my aunt wants me to marry ger cause she is good with kids (which i like about her too) but if my aunt saw me talking alone to her. Shed tease the dickens out of me. I wish i didn't wus out. I hope she doesn't feel like im not interested in her.
I hope she wants to be a stay at home mom. Thats what i want my wife to do. Ill provide for her and take care of her, and be a man of God.

Look, if your sister texts this gal then why not have your sister invite her to dinner? Or does she live really far away?

She live i Rhode island. And is 16 lol. The girl said shed like ti met up. Maybe... something idk. The logistics of this. Maybe ill have my sister put in a good world.

Where do you live? Kansas or ... why do I think you live in Kansas? Is that right?

Nope rotten old Connecticut. So we are close that gices my hope.

You said she is 16. When is her birthday?

Wow. Idk ill ask my sister oof

I'd recommend setting up a Facebook or some other similar type of social media profile for yourself and trying to friend her through it. Like Nixie said, it's a lot easier getting to know someone and even falling in love online because it removes all the awkwardness of being in person. You can take time responding and not say or do dumb and awkward things. You can start out just messaging and maybe later video chatting. Trust me, I know from personal experience about this. You can get to know someone very well and even fall in mutual love this way. Then if you start dating in person it's not so awkward because you've already discovered your mutual chemistry and built a good friendship.

Also, you mention marriage and wanting her to be a stay at home mom. All that is great, but dude, aren't you like 16 or 18 and she's 16? You both are very young and you don't need to focus on marriage before you even really get to know her. Maybe it could lead to that, but just focus on getting to know her and seeing if there's real chemistry between you. Then just enjoy the relationship as it may unfold and take it slow.

I haven't gone nearly that far. But when i tell her anything she does look interested

One other point... About wanting a wife who's a stay at home mom. I'm all for that if it's doable and what both partners want. My mom was stay at home. But I try and point out to younger people that in 2019 that's sort of an idealistic marriage, and not often doable in reality. I always thought I wanted a wife who stayed at home. But the reality is unless you have an incredible single income, it's all but impossible to support a household on one person's income, and isn't easy on two incomes today.

The other thing is it puts a woman in a seriously dangerous place to not have some sort of work career because if/when something happens to the husband like disability or death, then she has no means of supporting herself and or children. Sure, she can try and get a job, but she's likely going to have to start out at the bottom with minimal pay if she hasn't already been working and building a resume and work experience.

Anyway, two cents for what it's worth

Sound advice, JBmemegeek..

It is but. Im pursuing a career in radiology. Mri technician thereis a need and they make good decent money

Thats true but. Im trying to get a job where ive gkt that covered

I'm sorry with what you've been through. You've experienced bullying at not just on your job but at camp as well. Not only that, some of your bullies from your work was there as well (am I correct?). And at camp was a mixture of disfunctional order and leadership.

Now on a more personal level, you've wanted to meet two people, one is your friend, another, your likely crush; but neither of whom you did not meet. Particularly the 16 year old.

Have I understood you correctly?

I'll try to get back to you soon. I will say that it is a good thing you did not meet the 16 year old. Most states have laws against adults dating below 18 years of age while only one state (I can't remember the moment) allow adutls to date 17 year old. That means if you were to try and date her, you would've committed a serious crime.

Wait until she's 18 years of age, and then you can ask her out.

I don't think dating someone under 18 is illegal technically. Just having sex with them is. But it's certainly good to know what the law says and err on the side of caution

You maybe correct.

Pierre (may I call you by that name?), you'll need to know your state law, regarding the matter so as to remain safe from prosecution.

Yeah

How are you lately, Pierre?

Great

I'm glad to hear it; and I see that you're talking to a Catholic. Godspeed on that. :)

I do love kate. But i will say putting mary on a such a high level is idolatry

That is absolutely true. And, she also has a different Gospel (Galatians 1:6-9). ... Just to be sure, I hope that you didn't take my earlier post as an advocation of dating her.

No no. I know

How's that going so far?

Okay i suppose. Its wierd its very hard to get so called Christians to see the truth. Catholics, and false doctrine Christians

It is certainly difficult on our part to make them understand the whys and wherefores of our premises. Some are in denial, and some are truly blinded (2 Corinthians 2:14 & 4:2-3).

Please keep me updated on your dialogue with Kate.

Enjoy your weekend. :)

Now i will point out that im not bullied at my current job. The job at camp was volunteer work

Well i met the crush. But kinda kept silent and didn't look her in ther eyes. Its wierd cause i can easily look a girl i dont look in the eyes.

Oh yeah. I toldy dad i dont eant tobe a creep. Casue .ost people around here know my thoughts on pedophilia. But a 18 year liking a 16 is pedophilia. Also i new her at 14 i was 16

Piere...i never said yes..... JK! In my personal experience Christian Vamos are not the best... I went to one as a child [I was still a Christian at the time] and I ended up having my stuff stolen by a camp counselor and given to the other kids..... Still haven't forgiven them for that..... But any hoo I'm sure you'll get another chance to talk to her. I mean if you two like each other [from what I've read in the comments] it'll all turn out good! And I mean you'll get to see your friend again right?

Hopefully. Thats all hope