I'm starting to feel like you're being deflective on purpose like a lot of people on here, but as I've not spoken to you much before I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and break this down.
You wrote "why do you need to exclude the One that loves you?" You even capitalized the word one. That means - with no ambiguity - that there is exactly one deity that loves me, and it's Jesus [or relations thereof] and that is incompatible with your later point "I didn't say Jesus was the only one that loves you". I'm not having that. That's a direct contradiction of your own arguments and it doesn't make sense. You said Jesus was THE One that loves me and the other deities don't. That was the point you made. You can't say you didn't make it.
I never said that someone loving you is abusive. What I said was that "I'm the only one that loves you" is a common phrase associated with abusers. It creates a false sense of vulnerability to foster dependence. But if someone were to find that Islam or Buddhism also offers them a loving community, made up though their deities or spiritual figures may be - and people do, all the time, my Muslim neighbors are the loveliest people around me - then I don't care who died for what and why, the love is there, and it's as much coming from their God as yours.