A FRIEND OF MINES MOM DIED WHEN HE WAS VERY YOUNG; I MET HIM AT AROUND 18 AND HE HAD NOT DONE ANYTHING TO DEAL WITH HIS ISSUES, SO I TRIED "TOUGH LOVE" ON HIM WITH CONSTANT AND RELENTLESS JOKES ABOUT HIS MOM; YEARS ON WE DONT SEE EACH OTHER ANY MORE BUT LAST TIME WE DID HE CRIED AND THANKED ME FOR MAKING HIM TOUGHER, AND IT DID REALLY HELP HIM HAVING SUCH BRUTAL THINGS SAID TO HIM BY SOME ONE HE LOOKED UP TO; TO THIS DAY I HATE MYSELF FOR THE HORRIBLE SHIT I SAID