Recognizing how you would feel in another person's position is narcissism. Empathy is not dependent on how you would feel. It is the awareness of how the other person does feel, did feel or will feel. Self defined empathy is really true narcissism.
WHEN SOMEONE TELLS US THEIR SITUATION IN OUR MINDS WE THINK IT'S EASY BUT WHEN WE PUT OURSELVES IN THEIR SHOES OUR MINDS BECOME OVERWHELMED; IT'S CALLED "EMPATHY" THOUGH IT MAY SOUND EASY TO US, THEIR JOURNEY WAS LONG & DIFFICULT