She misjudged because she didn't realize I learned to live without her decades ago. We were split up in the 80s, almost committed suicide, but got help. Discovered that I could live without her and we wound up getting back together. I would have been content to live the balance with her, but...
Saw her yesterday and she was civil, but her actions won't get us back together. Because of her heart, she can't even use sex as an inducement. Not that I'm short on that since the divorce. One partner is the same age as my son, the other even younger.