When I had (my wife) our first of 5 children, the booze and drugs and parties stopped cold, right then and there! I'm 42 now, I gave my kids the best childhood I knew how and I put every one of them through college. k(except the youngest who's a junior in college and lives on her own) They're all adults, they pay for 100% of their way, they know not to ask me for money (if they're in a bind, of course, but it better be one hell of a bind!) Now, my responsibilities are all fulfilled to my children, now it is ME time! And I will do whatever I please, 25 years of providing for them, they always came first, they needed something, they got it, I went without until now! It's called being an adult! Party time! :)