True story: by loosening up, he meant get out of my depressing slump. But I would need to lose 20 pounds to just to use it.

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You know, as much as I can't stand him, the thought of him getting a hall pass made me sick... So no hall pass will be used

I always thought that monogamy was an honorable decision and fairly easy way to be a good person. There's an awful lot of people who think otherwise...it seems that anyone will sleep with anybody by today's standards. I'm thinking I'll take my clear conscience to the grave with me. You only get one name in life...

You didn't have to delete that. No offense taken

Sorry... My wife trolls my Imgflip account. Sometimes I make memes and then I feel like I'm going to have to explain myself to her if she sees it.

Instead of a hall pass, tell him to get you out of the slump himself!

I honestly think this is one of the best things he could of said, I don't want a hall pass and have no one in mind.

Ha ha! Awesome! Pretty cool he was willing to try that, though.

Don't buy it....if he's granting you a "hall pass" that means he either wants one too or he's done something and wants a an excuse because then you did it too.

Interesting theory.... And you are the only one to suggest it. Hum.

That would be a relationship-killer for me personally. :P

Everyone has a make believe hall pass

I'm a one-woman man and usually the hall passes are two-way. Monogamy is one of the few things in my life I accord something resembling faith.

maybe it's generational. I don't believe in using it... But I'm not naive to think my husband does not think some Hollywood scarlet is hot.

Of course I'm not going to cheat on my husband. But "hall pass" is usually like an unattainable person.

There's nothing wrong with finding some unattainable person hot. The point is acting on it. RoseK is right. Flirtations are never 100% harmless, but looking at a 'starlet' with twinkling in your naughty bits happens to everyone. Relationships are built on the 99.9% of the time you're not having sex.

I speak from experience. I had an affair with a married woman once. We were in our 20s (and thus more like married 'girl') and good friends. She married a skater dude who she told me was more like her brother, and who would have sex with her every three months. We started hanging out a lot more and eventually got more intimate, but didn't consummate before she separated from him and moved out. It didn't last long since she had more stresses than just the separation. I don't regret it but I'm certainly not proud of it, and it's something I'd never do again. That's the only time I ever stepped outside the usual relationship cycle and don't plan on it again as I'm fairly traditional in that regards.

Hopefully not TMI?

If you remember our conversation of a couple weeks ago, RoseK, I'm pining after something unattainable at the moment (well 'pining' might be too strong of a word; like-lusting?). My little experience of above is what keeps me holding back from taking it further. Experience is what has taught me how to handle these situations.

Somewhat. I'm not miserable about it because she's a good friend and would stay that way. I'm not moping, or optimistic, enough to take myself off the market. :)

True. I think the whole conversation made me love him more tho. And this is obviously a good topic! Not too much info. I wouldn't ruin my kids lives or others.

And that's a good result. Whenever I hear of an acquaintance cheating on their spouse I wouldn't get angry at them for what they did to their significant other but for what the result might be with their children.

Hey - imgflip is a good place to blow-off steam like this. :)

If you're not a cheater it's never going to seem like a good idea, I flat out turned down casual sex with 3 woman ( and one threesome) on 3 different occasions, the one woman I would consider unattainable... She was stunning . I wouldn't ever want it done to me for one and secondly I always had a good guy reputation. I wouldn't want to be a scumbag for a night of pleasure... Scumbag Stephanie on the other hand...She doesn't care. :(

1 definite 3 some and probably another one if I didn't immediately get cold feet, I've worked in a position where I'm meant to flirt and come across as cavalier as possible. I'm proud to say that my morals never faltered. I wish I could say the same for my wife, she completely destroyed everything I thought I had for a good time with a couple of losers. She never saw the long term of the damage she would do. I am guilty of working too hard and trying to solidify a career while she was home with the kids. We were married in our early twenties, but I was never more sure about what I thought love was... I love my kids so much that I can't bear to leave but I don't look at her the same... It really hurts knowing how much she hated me at the time to be such a w**re. I'm left with no self esteem, no faith and no hope. It really isn't worth it.

Omg! Are my group of friends the only ones who use this term?