Try to keep in mind, they are trying to be helpful. It's impossible for them to understand what you're going through; They're not going through it. Since they can't understand, they have no idea what to say or do to help you feel better (And they do want you to feel better). So they fall back on the same old platitudes. If you know what you need, tell them. If you you just want them to shut up and hold your hand while you cry, tell them.