growing up aint it chief, too late to make my dreams a reality

Damn bro this is so real coming back after like 3 years it’s lowkey crazy to see how far everyone’s come

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Man at least you're making money

its not worth it bro
money aint making me happy

If I had money to buy my own BBQ Pringles I would be the happiest mf in the world

i dont have the time to do things im passionate about
its just work sleep work sleep work sleep

Am I the only adult here who has a healthy work and life balance?

I said adult.

I’m sorry you have to resort to 2 jobs. But it’s not too late to make dreams a reality. You’re not even 25% done with life.

i know
it feels like it though.
9-3 and 5-11 every day and weekends to do homeschooling.
my problem for choosing the hours
money dont fix everything
prolly my time management was where i went wrong

Homeschooling? So you’re not being forced to work 2 jobs? Why did you even do that then? That was a dumb choice.

Obviously money doesn’t fix everything. Money doesn’t buy happiness. All it does is buy more opportunities for you to be happy. Those are nice to have, but that doesn’t mean you need all those opportunities if you know what makes you fulfilled.

yeah
i do plan to save up enough to quit those jobs soon

real bruh,I ain't even got a job and I js keep falling apart

i'm 17 and i'm currently unemployed, i'm so unmotivated that i struggle to get out of my bed in the morning, i'm starting to gain weight again and my mental health is f**ked. us teens can relate when it comes to growing up and realising its not all it was wound up to be.

You are literally not grown up.

I'm not GROWN up but I am GROWING up. My adulthood is pretty much already started because I've left school and I'm getting a job soon and possibly a place in college. Its stressful because I know I already have pressure on me because my mum and dad are gonna expect me to be working and paying rent. And they already see me as a disappointing slob who does nothing all day every day and I really wanna change that but my mental health is stopping that. I may not be an adult yet but if this is what life is like right now, I'm scared of what it's gonna be like as I get more older.

If you’re gonna live to be 80 or 90, then you still have 65-70 years left to NOT let it get worse. This is coming from a 21 year-old.

As an adult, you have all the power to make your own life better for you. You don’t have to live under curfew or guidelines of parents.

I have a friend who still lives with his parents. He’s 21. He can’t even drive yet. And I’m not even allowed to pick him up in my own car because his parents won’t let him. That’s the kind of trapping that will ruin an adult.

I get mental health may play a role in productivity. But are you going to let that win? Are you going to give up and just accept that you’ll never get out of that? Or are you going to challenge it?

Are you going to college? I wouldn’t recommend it unless you absolutely need it.

My parents don't trust me because I do a lot of things that betrays their trust like sneaking into rooms and taking things or going behind their backs and doing stuff they don't want me to do and I know it's on me and me only if I lose trust but everytime I think I'm gonna change and start gaining trust back, I f**k it up, forget about the consequences and the talks I have with my parents about the ways I can gain trust back.

It always just goes in one ear and out the other and I'm sick of myself, I'm fed up that at 17 years old my parents treat me like a 10 year old, I can't keep my phone, my Xbox controller and my TV remote in my room at night because they know damn well I'm just gonna be up all night on them because I can't stop myself (although I do have trouble sleeping most of the time anyway but I'm on melatonin to help me sleep at night), my parents bedroom and the kitchen get locked when no one is in them because I've had history of going in and taking things without asking or taking things that I'm not allowed.

I see others my age already moving out, working decent jobs, getting their own place and their own car and some even already have kids. But then there's me who can't do shit to help myself. I just want to start becoming a responsible and trustworthy person in my parents eyes, that's the first step I wanna do before I even think about doing anything else.

This is quite possibly the most real you’ve ever been with me. Thanks for sharing.

Here’s the thing. If I could, I would be playing my Xbox all night every night grinding all the games on my backlog, but I don’t. I would love going for 8-hour hikes all the time, but I don’t. I have to get up at 5am to go to work, and that’s just how it is. It’s all about setting boundaries for yourself and working around your schedule. It’s actually how you learn to appreciate moments where you can game or you can do your hobbies.

Getting trust and becoming responsible is a great first step. The next step I’d recommend is being self sufficient, which is something my friend I mentioned has no idea how to do. My friend can’t drive, he has no job, he has no goals, and he has no spine. Whenever we meet at McDonald’s, he gives me money and asks me to order for him because he’s too shy to do it himself. I don’t know you irl, but I think you can do much better than that.

One thing I like doing with my mom and dad is going on walks with them individually. Just around the neighborhood or maybe around town. It’s a great time to talk with them personally, and they don’t have to be parents towards you while on the walk. That would be a way to gain trust with them.

By the way, don’t have kids at 17. Don’t even get married at 17. I can’t think of a worse fate to live. That will absolutely not make you happy.

Thank you for the advice man I appreciate it.