I'm learning, and it's only a recent lesson. I have been experimenting with turning the other cheek, and I actually am having some interesting discussions without rancor. Even some begrudging apologies to me! I think some people use this place as free therapy, to air their most forbidden feelings, and to find excitement in sparring with others. I have to work on not feeling like I have to defend ideas or people, and am getting better about not stopping on each political post I think is stupid, and just go more for the points.