Steam is like, 8000% better, hands down. Like, no contest
I really like the recently released "project hail mary"
I find, that living in the unknowing of your gender is what keeps me sane. Just set up like, a fence and say, I know I'm behind these lines. Less hassle then trying to pin your gender down. Give it some room to move around. And if you don't corral it? That's fine, move the fence.