actually, this is what we're trying to achieve. If we were to yell out, "Hey he's a man", no one would care. If one were to yell out, "hey! fizz xenogender and plantkin", a lot of people would argue that their delusional, or giving others a bad name. Of course, it's still ok to find a safe space with others with similar experiences. In the end, we want to be treated equally.