question in comments-

So I'm gender fluid and prefer to present femininely, and i've been working up the courage to come out to my parents but recently my mom had me not come to one of my little bros school event because she noticed I was wearing women's pants and she said it would stress her out. and I don't really know what to do?

I would maybe ask her what she meant by that, it could’ve just been she was maybe stressed that someone would be, for lack of a better term, an ass

thank you i'll ask her.