i guess i have to play devil's advocate here
we have no real hard proof that toady is rosewater
rosewater has no connection to her other than an excessive sexual attraction to toady and toady thinking she knows them irl
only leads so far are the name, the fact vama was exposed for being part of it, rosewater sometimes saying their templates were by people like memeus (who is known for posting borderline porno) which is likely a lie but the door is open