Yeah that's pretty much how it works in this system

Oh who are you oh woman to cry over what God wanted and decreed? I must remember that my husband is guilty even though God forced it by action decree before the foundations of the earth & God did it to bring Himself glory in my pain, "my husband's" sin & her perdition. I and/or my husband could still also be under Evanescent grace & He'll possibly irresistibly regenerate her minus any repentance from her. Praise God.