"I will find any Netflix show boring from now on" My mother - 11/02/2025

this week is where it all moved:

On Tuesday my mom decided to search for help cause she decided she couldn't take it no more
ans so she went out of the house saying she was gonna "give back some fencing suits she forgot to give back" but what she really did is, she called a community of people specialised in helping womens in distress.
The night she came to my room to tell me that the next day she has a phonecall with them, but the problem is that she was scared my father but a spyware on her phone because what we knew is that he was looking through her contacts messages and photos when she wasnt looking, so i said "maybe when you get the phonecall, me and (my brother) can ask him to show us one of his movies so he watches with us" and thats what we did. This night she told me that she had a phonecall the next day with a lawyer.

And so the next day came, my father had an appointment for his hairs, and my mom told him "go do some grocery shopping before coming back" because she had the phonecall around exactly the time my father was supposed to come back, but then my father decided to go earlier and went grocery shopping before the appointment. Because of this my mom decided she would inform her parents
(my grandparents) about the situation. Mom cried. She was so stressed she didn't understand what was happening why he did this so i said "tell him you forgot to give back a suit and go take the phonecall in the car".
She took A LOT OF TIME and so i got kinda scared, and when she came back, she told me "for some reason the lawyer couldn't reach me no matter how hard she tried" and we slept with a defeat.... or was it ? Cause the husband of her older sister told her "don't worry, i know a lawyer that could help you".

On friday, we had guests for a "halloween" """"party"""" So nothing really happened

Then on saturday (yesterday) she comes to my room around 8am and tells me
"I am sorry to tell you this right now but.... we're going tomorow"
I am so shocked, i don't understand why it happened so fast, she then tells me that the husband of her older sister called the lawyer he was talking about and she told him that "they should leave right now, ASAP".
And so, the whole night i packed up, i cried hugging my guitars with the feeling i wouldn't see them again.
And then....
Morning came....

Rain...
its the first thing i hear when i wake up
Then i see my mom open the door and say "wake up, help me put everything in the car".
I dress up, put on my indoor shoes and got my stuff downstairs as quiet as possible cause we woke up before my father and we didnt wanted him to see us do allat.
I charge the car under a heavy rain, i have to put everything in the trunk from the backseat because the trunk make a loud beep when it opens cause its automatic.
When i finish putting everything in the trunk, my mom tells me "Goodjob, go get some sleep now".
I didn't sleep...
Archi (my kitty) came to do a last hug before i wake up for good.
I take my breakfast and i wait, anxiously, that the moment comes.
Something i forgot to say is,
my dad injured himself like a month ago and so a nurse comes in the house everyday to change the bandage (she played one of the biggest role in all of this while being a complete stranger).

After finishing the breakfast, i play for one last time my guitars, and i cry, i cry so much cause to me these guitars are like babies i leave inside the cage of a tiger. But i have no time to cry so i dry my tears and put on my best poker face cause i hear the ringing from the door that means the nurse is here.
I go down in the kitchen where my mom is waiting, and i say "hello" to my father, which probably will be the last words he will ever hear from me.
My mom waits till the nurse gets in the living room.
We wait...
And then...
Go!!!!! We start going to the car, me and my bro open the gates to get the car out of the house, we leave it open and get inside the car and we flea the house at full speed.
We did it all in 45 seconds, its all we had, its all we needed.

So we on the road to a town close to us and we're supposed to meet my moms sister with her husband, my bro is on the phone discussing with them where we meet, he describes our car, then we realise they are right behind us so i open my window to wave at them.
For a friendly reminder, we were in bad relationship with them and they did not hesitate to come and litterally save us.

We arrived on a parking, my mom teared up in her sis arms, we meet (We're gonna call him Oliver) for the first time in person in like 7 years, then we go find a pub to seat down and discuss our next steps.

When we get to sit down, Oliver talks to my mom about the fact we did everything right, we got through the hardest part and now we're safe. We decide that we will split in 2 teams for different assignements :
Team one: my mom and oliver go to the police station
Team two: Me my bro and Julia (we calling my moms sis Julia) go do grocery shopping
We had one objective tho as team two: find SIMs Cards so our father cant track us (spoiler we didnt find them).
The police station was closed until 3 pm

After all the groceries, we meet at the temporary house that is literally a f**king palace like, Julia and Oliver decided to rent a house made for 14 peoples. We are so thankful they were her for us.
We ate then Oliver and my mom went to the police station to sue my father. We learned after all this that Oliver is actually a specialist in helping womens in distress (just know that because of my fathers opinion, i thought this guy was a real jerk). We are SO thankful they were here
Also shoutout to one of my moms most trusted friend that kept some of our clothes in her house.

You're probably wondering how our father reacted tho. WELL just like we expected him to react, the
"I am a victim pls womp womp come dry my tears you are mine you aint supposed to leave"
he said immediatly after we leaved and after reading the note my mom put on the table:
"The intention behind this is clearly to hurt me and it does hurts"

Then my mom went to withdraw all the money from the shared bank account (which was only 500€) and not even 40 minutes after (that how obssesed by money he is) word for word he said:
"No... not like this, you escaping the house and taking the children is not acceptable, but if you need money to have a house or food i won't stop the money flow"
He plays the victim then the savior in a desperate attempt to make us feel like "no dont worry i dont want yall to be hurt i will help you"

He then sends a message saying :
"Well thought plan tho goodjob" in sarcasm

And to be fair, yall know what PTSD is probably.
I got real PTSD but less than my mother.
Sometimes i got Adrenaline rushes and fear coming in waves, got a nervous laugh that i cant control.
My mom tho got the cries a lot treatment with the adrenaline, stress, fear, and all the other stuff you can think of.
I am not joking nor saying this as a joke, we got PTSD and i never thought i'd experience it for real.

Anyway, here i am in my bed, thanking the angels to have helped us in our great escape.
Now i will go for a well deserved sleep
Goodnight.

thanks

i am impressed by your bravery
i hope things are looking up

Thanks
its gonna be hard but yea, we just reached the peak of a mountain

sleep well bro

thanks vro

fellow parental seperation survivor? i relate crodie ts was hard AF at the start

I'm gonna be deadass, i was fatherless from the day i was born to today, i'm deadass happy we get the divorce

do be happy, it willl be peacefuller(speak from experience)

Just realised its my 6000 creations somehow lmao

Basically succefully escaped my father

good job cro!!!