All that is needed for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing

CHILD PROTECTION AND CUSTODIAL SAFETY ARE NOT REAL; If only bruises are considered; THE ABUSER INEVITABLY BLAMES THE VICTIM; THEIR GENETICS OR LUCK. COVERT ABUSE LEAVES SCARS YOU CAN'T SEE--; Until the victim's scars are inflicted later, self-harming and seeking abuse as intimacy, and the mental denial of breaking themselves to see machiavellian darkness as as a life-giving virtue and source of balance, to make sense of their suffering and involuntary sacrifice. Not all abuse bruises, but all abuse scars. IT MAY BE HEREDITARY, BUT IT WASN'T PASSED TO THEM GENETICALLY. When they aren't, they may resent people calling themselves victims who didn't endure bruises. Those who were bruised are especially blind to these scars, and the behavior that causes them. Bruises or not, they are often scarred again as adults, unwilling to leave harmful situations because they can convince themselves there is no harm, since there are no marks to make it seem real, nothing finite to describe. Or, sometimes, even if there are. Sometimes, to them, the marks might be proof of love... Or make love feel real. They minimise cries for help and don't understand harmful actions they see. Their failure to identify harm leads them to enable and protect abusers. Their charges, who depend on them, may never be acquainted with real protection, advocacy, security, or know self-worth, privacy or dignity.