i seriously need some reassuration on my gender identity, i'm sorry if this is off-topic but i really don't know who to talk to

This is absolutely on topic. Whats wrong?

Thank you, i'm having heavy troubles with my gender identity, maybe i'm trans but what if i'm faking it???

Well, it ultimately depends on you. Do you feel, deep down, completely disregarding anyone else's opinion, disregarding all fears you may have, that you feel like you are the opposite gender to which you were assigned at birth?

IDK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i almost don't even feel anything anymore but an endless mental fog and an overcoming madness!!!
(btw tysm for interesting in this, i REALLY appreciate it, i'm just a random person on internet so i'd understand if you stopped talking with me, seriously, you don't have to do this (you're a great person btw!)

Hmm. Here's what I did. Get into a calm environment. Clear your head and ask yourself: "What is my gender? Which one fits me and my personality?"
Its okay to not have an answer yet. If you do truly know, it will come to you.
If you think you are faking being trans, why do you think this way?
(Its no problem. I like helping people in any way I can.)

I think it for many reasons:
-I do hate my body but i'm not sure if i just retain myself ugly or it's actual dysphoria
-when i was a kid i never acted femininely so it's probably just a phase
-i like women
And other reasons i'll tell later

Okay. I'll reply to each point in order.
- If you hate your body, there is probably a reason, right? If you just think you are ugly then its probably no dysphoria. If you feel like your body isnt…right for you, like you cant be happy in your body, then its probably dysphoria.
- When I was a kid, I basically never acted feminine. But you have to understand 2 things. 1, Kids brains arent fully developed, wheras you current one is more mature. 2, Even if it is just a phase, shouldnt you try to fit with it? Everything (non surgical) about being trans is reversible.
-Wdym?

- YES i definitely can't be happy with my body
- hey you're actually right!!! TYSM!
- i mean "can I be a girl if i like girls?, maybe i'm lesbian or maybe i just misenterpreted my "ammiration" for girls thinking i am trans when actually i just like them

- So do you just think lowly of your looks or dislike the body itself?
- No problemo
- Ah yes, the humble "am i attracted to them or do i just admire/want to be them". I still struggle with that.

damn man i wish that was true :,) but thank you for cheering me up (i accidentally flagged your comment, i'm sowwy 3:)

it is true though

No i swear you it isn't, i'm ugly asf and i'd do everything to be even slightly more feminine

i still think i'm ugly, and now i'm even uglier since 10 minutes ago my father forced me to cut my nails shorter, ngl i almost cried

you are not ugly. or even if you are ugly (which you arent), at least you have an amzing personality

Ok ty, you helped me a lot, you have a new follower

No problem! Always here if you need anything.

-i REALLY hate it so much! i hate my face, i hate my short hair, i also hate my height, my voice, my body hair, EVERYTHING!!! but still idk if it's dysphoria, bc i'm so freaking ugly i think everyone in my position would hate their body
- ty anyway :3 (this part of the conversation will now close here due to obvious reasons)
- yeah... however i have a (REALLY) small reassuration about this, when i look at other girls i don't wish being with them as a romantic partner but as a friend, probably this doesn't mean anything but i feel better when i think it does

- Okay a) unless you look like the person from the ass soda meme, you are not ugly. b) I think its dysphoria personally, but its really up to you. I'd reccomend looking up examples of dysphoria and seeing if you match any.
- I mean that is kinda normal I'd assume

what's going on?

Confusion, idk my gender anymore

ah. is there something you feel comfortable being called?

i honestly would prefer if ppl used female pronouns for me irl too

so...you feel like a girl?

Yes, but many factors make me think i'm faking it

would you feel comfortable telling me what those factors are?

Last thing: when i said i didn't took initative to shave my body hair i didn't mean i don't want to, it's just that idk how to do it and to hide it from ppl

well i want to tell you that you are not faking it. you are being true to yourself.

idkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what makes you so sure?

On the other side tho, there also are things that make me think i'm NOT faking it, that what makes my confusione even bigger

- Well first of all i have no idea if the hate i have towards my body is dysphoria or just low self-esteem
- i'm exaggeratedly scared to come out, this makes my think i'm not truly convinced
- idk if my "ammiration" for girls is just "i want to look like her" or i just like them bc i'm lesbian (if i'm actually faking it it means i'm straight)
- i never took initiative to shave my body hair, so again, maybe i'm not full convinced in my subcoinscious
- I often act feminine but who knows maybe i'm a femboy...???
- how do you understand if it's just a phase??????
Help my brain is melting from confusion

gender idenity stuff? yeah. thats on topic. hit me.

I'm messed tf up, how do you understand you gender?

now that the funny part. i dont. and ive learned to acsept it like that. yeah, i know im in the ballpark of enboy but i find not pondering on it to be really helpful. one thing you might want to try is to find something close enough for now. then, with peace of mind you can further refine it.
you dont need to get it right off the bat.
and for some reason i need to also talk about validity?
you are valid througout the process. even when you are wrong. its part of being human

but why do i feel like i'm faking it???
better question: how do i undertand if i'm faking it?

well, that probibly because you arnt in the right spot. if you want i could help undersand your gender better with you.
faking it can feel aparent, sometimes it doesnt. gender is definantly one of those grey zones.

yes could you help me please?????'
i'll do everything!!!

well. one thing that generaly causes gender things is chromozoes. amab or afab. and do you feel like more of a boy, girl, or something else, or multiple, or none, or some somtimes but other other times.

my birth gender is male, i often feel like a girl and rarely feel just nothing, ususally when my day went like shit and i just need to cry

how often would you say you feel nothing?
what im hearing is somewhat genderfluid. more spesificly genderfey.
gender fluid is when you gender changes from time to time. genderfey is like genderfluid but no male genders. (in case you dint know)
it may go either way but another option would be that when you feel like crap its you not caring. so you could be just mtf. but from what it sounds like is that you do in fact care durring those times so your gendermay just be determined off gender.

How often... i'd say like... once a month? It's just for a night anyway

what happened homie

How can you people understand you gender!?!?!? I' so freaking confused

if you need help i’m open. btdubs for future reference there’s no need for self censorship like that. no need to say “ducking”- you won’t get in trouble for that here

How tf can you understand your gender? I'm so confused idek if i'm human anymore how can i understand if i'm a boy or a girl?

tbh i don’t know my gender either. just try different pronouns and labels, like if your current gender is male do the opposite and say “girl” “woman” “ma’am” n things. idk how to do that for enby besides things like “friend” “partner”. use different pronouns on you and ask others to do it too. for example “yeah, that’s [sprout]. they played minecraft with me on their computer yesterday”. see what makes you happy, what icks you. sometimes it’s really hard because you’re so used to your birth pronouns and sometimes it’s super easy. each journey is different per person and takes a crap load of time.

i prefer being called with female pronouns but i'm pretty sure it's just a coincidence idk if it really means anything maybe i'm just mentally ill
(btw tysm for interesting in this, i REALLY appreciate it, i'm just a random person on internet so i'd understand if you stopped talking with me, seriously, you don't have to do this (you're a great person btw!)

What's popping that has gone to hot

How did you understood your gender? I didn't, never, ever

Well, let's see here
It seems as tho you've already had this conversation, but I'll give you some advice anyway: you can be, WHOEVER you want, gender is not the thing decided for you, it's what you choose to be :), so if your really not sure you can call yourself fluid I guess
(Pls dont take my advice srsly, i have no experience with gender problems)

Uhhhhh idk?
Genderfluid ppl change their gender identity every... every month i guess?
I really appreciate your advice, but i don't think it's accurate, no offense ofc

Nah non taken that's completely fair
I've never had experience with this stuff anyway

yeah me neither, i wish i did :,(