check comment (semi-rant about being a semi-therapist, no offense intended)

Idk how to respond to this but ok…

like, not that I WANT to have problems, but WHAT ARE YOU GUYS DOING?! okay, look, I'm sorry, I know it's rough for some people. I mean, some of you, who I shall not call out on who or why, but you've talked to before, and um....some of you are YOUNGER than me, or nearly the same age. so, let me ask...

WHY ARE YOU GUYS GOING THROUGH THINGS YOUR SUPPOSED TO SUFFER AS AN ADULT ALREADY?!

I'm sorry but like...it's kinda hard for me to comprehend. like, I get it. it's tough, it's tramatizing. but if you keep on saying something about yourself, your gonna believe it, and it's gonna stick.

now before you think "this crazy person probally never went through anything, they wont understand"

my mom and my biological father had a divorce when I was 3, and I cant even remember his face. now, maybe it's because I have ADHD, so I never stick to one thought for a long period of time. but I've moved on (it's not that hard)

so, like, why are you guys feeling down so easily?

happiness wont come for you. it's up to YOU to find your joy.

look, I'm sorry for semi-ranting, I've just heard too much. I mean, I'm 14, and I NEVER, not even ONCE had depression, trama, or any of that crap. and yet here I am, knowing multiple people around my age, getting raped, depression, suicidal thoughts, PTSD, abused, having to go to therapy and WHO KNOWS WHAT ELSE?! and you can tell me what's wrong, IM BASICALLY THE FREAKING THERAPIST. and I don't want to, but HEY! if I can help ya be happy, get over some stupid breakup some shitty ex who broke your heart or what dad did or who left you, then sure, i'll do it. but like, PLEASE, get it together.

you've got this.

(seriously, depression is just anger without enthusiasm. so, like, scream into a pillow. DROP THE ANGER. it'll help!)

depression isn't something you just "have" as you say. It develops, it brews. It's a horrible loop, really.

If we're using your definition of depression.

Lets say I feel really down in the dumps. horrible sinking. I lose motivation to do f**k all, so I get angry.
I get mad at myself for getting mad, so I just lose more enthusiasm.

Eventually you're where I am. A hopeless complainer. Feeling down is in nature. It's baked into everything. Of course I'd feel down, it's what I've known forever now.

I'd do something about it. Like talk to a therapist. But I'm broke.

"Get an online therapist!" I'm losing my access to 'online' in less than a week. I'm trying to enjoy it while it lasts.

Your experience isn't the same as others. Always know that. You want to help, and it's helping. And your help is recognized.

yeah, but sometimes, I just feel like it isn't doing anything. it just feels like their hanging onto it too much. it's hard to explain, I've got mixed feelings about it.

Like I said, there's a point when you've done all you can. Don't worry about what's beyond you. Just don't what you can.

don't what I can?

*do

I have a semi related tidbit to add about stress. If you're ever stressed about something, do a little check in your mind. "Can I do something about it?" If you can, then do that. If you can't, then why worry? I haven't had to deal with major trauma, but my parents also divorced, and my step parents (on both sides) fight often. It's easy to feel out of control, and it's okay to be afraid of losing control, and to try to maintain it. But you should never kill yourself over your circumstances. Life is hard enough as is. You don't need a little demon in your mind to sap your energy too. I'm not saying to stop caring. But don't worry. Sometimes, it's out of your hands. There's no point in worrying about what you can't control. Just take it as it comes. It'll work out.

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

sorry, i just get pissed at stupid things easily. im not saying people's issues are stupid (well...maybe some of them are) but it's ridicuslus on how long they hang onto it.

It's not even that it could be stupid. In the moment, the concern is real. I've just found over time that I'm overall happier and more content when I just stop worrying.

true

I normally hang onto stuff more because my therapist is shit and keeps bringing it up to TRY and get me to talk, but it always makes it worse remembering it. plus, well *ahem* stuck in the mind of a child doesn't help either (I'm more sensitive and stuff)
also ty for all the support you give us. you're doing great as a mini-therapist! (idk if that's a compliment or not but I mean it as one-)

I'll take it as a complement i guess. it's just crazy how many people are depressed. like, okay, having one bestie who's depressed, kinda concerning i can handle it. 2? okay, more concerning. 3? this is getting a little bit too much. 4? what's going on?! 5?! it's too much.

I get it, really. its amazing how many people are depressed nowadays. but some of them cant help it. Like me, mine comes from what I've been through and my parents.

Why do i feel like I’m the only mf who isn’t depressed on this site

because you ain't. there's....3 or 4 people I'm friends with (including you) here that's depressed. (which makes 8 people I know in total depressed and I play therapist with my friend group)

Well you will NOT believe the amount of people who that have Depression in Msmg

OOF. welp, that's enough of impflip for a month

I would

No way, me too