(Sorry for responding late, I was busy with other things.)
-"know.....There are BIG differences between diddling an anthropomorphic being that can wear clothes, speak English, stand upright, get a job, fight in wars, and understand something as complicated as consent, and diddling a plain old animal that can't consent."
That doesn't change the fact that its still bestiality and wrong though. You can argue that its not as bad as the latter but its still wrong. Simply put they anatomically are more animal than human (some even very animal-like in anatomy and some even having realistic animal heads and anatomy), and its simply unnatural. Plus the human brain is not hardwired to be attracted to creatures like that.
-"And if the Alien knows you and is interested in relations with you, then make sure your compatible with it and don't tell anyone about it. If the alien is humanoid (which it may not be) and sentient, and can consent, then go for it. if not, then don't. thats a red flag of zoophilia."
Ok your not making sense here. "Dont tell anyone about it" wdym?? And for the record it takes more than being humanoid to not be considered creepy. It has to look both anatomically and facially human enough to not be considered creepy or gross. You are simplifying bestiality and its issues while also anthropomorphising xenos. This is not just about consent. Its about biology, sanity, societal norms and LEGAL CONCERNS. And this entire consent hyperfixiation is what leads to defending diddling feral animal characters. Because remember, any fictional animal or creature can be given intelligence by the person who created it.