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17. Praise Kink
"If you like hearing the phrase, 'good girl' or 'good boy,' you might have a praise kink. (And hey, who doesn’t enjoy a compliment, especially during sex?) From being told you’re attractive to being praised for a job well done, praise kinks can be incredibly versatile. They're also a good example of BDSM not always being mean or strict.
Despite how BDSM is often portrayed in popular culture and porn, people in this community can use language to build their sexual partner up with positive affirmations, instead of humiliating or tearing them down—consensually, of course. 'Sometimes, people who enjoy receiving praise like to be challenged to do hard things, and then, when they are coaxed and cajoled through those hard things, be told that they were very, very good for doing them,' says Sexsmith."