look dude you asked how people went from fatherless to not fatherless and i told you
if you’re saying i have to be close with my biological father to have a father, that’s not gonna happen. he was 35 when my mom was 19 and lied saying he was 10 years younger. did tons of drugs and was very violent, never took his BPD meds, would threaten to blow his brains out or physically abuse others if everything wasn’t done exactly the way he wanted it in the exact time frame he wanted it done in, thought weed counted as birth control and accidentally got my mom pregnant with me after FORCING HER TO SMUGGLE HIM INTO THE CZECH REPUBLIC BECAUSE SHE HAD A PASSPORT AND HE DIDN’T SO THEY PRETENDED TO BE ENGAGED, stalked me and my mom after we left so much we had to leave the continent for 5 years, we nearly had to get a restraining order but he disappeared without a trace
would you rather my father be someone like that who may be biologically related to me, or someone who genuinely cares about me and the people around him, and always does the best he can
you’re probably not reading this so i’ll just add a TLDR
TLDR: biological dad was an abusive shithead, my (step)dad is a decent human being and always does his best with what he has. my biological dad is not worthy of the title of father figure, my (step)dad is.