My friend lost her husband of 39 years 2 days before her birthday today. A birthday greeting didn't feel right to me, but I wanted to recognize her birthday. So I sent her this. Thank you for the positive comment.
This may not feel like a day to celebrate, but make it what you would like at this moment. A day of rest, to re-group...re-evaluate...just nap. A day to clear your head, heal your soul, soothe your pain. What ever you do, make it yours and yours alone. The Happy Birthdays will be there when you are ready. In the mean time, the people that care about you will be here for you.