you can only get so far by following instructions. we didn't get a man on the moon simply by following instructions given to us. if everyone sits and waits for a leader to tell them what to do, no one is going to experiment with their ideas. not questioning anything and only being obedient is dangerous. Yes, sometimes you should do what you're told, but sometimes rules and authorities are made to be questioned. america was founded by people who were fed up with the king's rule. Protests and civil disobedience make countries, good change, and general progression. And on apartments, i have lived in them all my life. it's not so bad if you have your own room and the people living with you clean up after themselves. also, you never stop learning, and anyone can teach anyone. You can learn about a new pandemic, for example, from reading/ watching the news, word of mouth, and witnessing the effects.
And being strict isn't teaching you life skills. it actually just teaches you how to lie well, appear busy, and manipulate people into calming down. I know from experience. Also, if you're held under this strictness all throughout your childhood, once you gain freedom, you overindulge in it due to the starvation for it that you have experienced for so long