Maybe you should try to sit down and take with him, tell him it’s serious and that he needs to listen. It might be good for him to know that even though some of it might be being a teenager, the feelings are still real. Explain to him, calmly, that whether it’s just being a teenager or not you feel all those things. Dad jokes are supposed to be how dads bond with their kid, but if they are seriously hurtful you need to tell him. It’s important that you tell him calmly, maybe practice in front of a mirror. Adults tend to disregard you if you are being too emotional. Speak slowly and clearly, and try to communicate how you feel in a way they might listen. You could also write them a letter explaining how you feel, because talking to them face to face may be difficult.