Help pls

Well do you feel like sometimes you are boy and sometimes girl or do you feel like a guy?

Sometimes boy sometimes girl, I feel like it’s only because I was raised female and change is never comfortable. My mom was so firm about dresses, jewelry, and overall girly stuff that it’s hard to change that mindset; but on the other hand, not only did I hate all that stuff, I also sometimes just feel more like a boy

Hm alright so the first question was for gender fluid the second was for trans do you usually feel like a boy of do you mostly just hate the girly stuff?

I do feel like a boy and can imagine myself as one. I remember telling my mom I would rather be a boy when I was 6-7 and her immediately shutting it down so that kinda gets rid of my initial fear of “oh you’re just following the trends”. But my brain will always immediately follow this logic with “but on the other hand…” and I’m stuck again

Ok I finally realized what you are saying after 2-4 reads of that comment I believe you are trans male but that's just what I think, I suggest asking others here about it

Thanks, this helped

Sorry for being confusing, this was a vent if anything

Ok! You can vent to me whenever you need it

Thx :)

Dm me if u still confused.

Tell me. I have. All the way

I came back to this comment thread to say thank you. My mind was a roller coaster back then (and still is) but you really helped. I've been outed, it didn't go the best, but now I go to a public school where at least half the school is LGBTQ+ in some way. I've made friends. I don't know how much longer I would've been a confused mess if it weren't for this conversation. Thanks

Im glad you've found your way.

I’m just gonna sleep on this and think about it

Thank you far all your help, I didn’t realize how bad my mom was until I put it into words and I really needed this conversation

I’ve always been more stereotypically masculine my entire life (excluding like 3-5 years old cuz I didn’t really have a choice) but i have very distinct memories of saying things like “I wish I was a boy” or “the soap in my hair makes me look like a boy, doesn’t it?” And my mom going “no, you’re a girl honey and always will be” and it messed with my head

Now I’m really considering becoming a trans man and my childhood is affecting the decision I feel

Exactly what I mean. We've been though the same things. My mother still yells at me that I'm a girl.

And being transgender isn't a choice :) it's a choice whether you accept yourself as it or not.
Transmen get called tomboys all the time but.
Tomboys are still women, they're just masculine. And transmen can be girly or neutral or masc. It doesn't matter.
If you feel uncomfortable saying you're a girl, then you probably are transgender.
I'm always here for questions.

The only real question I have is how to go about it, do I start slow? Is it like “for now I’ll just hide my hair under a hat”, or do you just go all out?

When should I start using a chosen name? I have one that I think I would like, but it’s a major change

If you go quick go over a talking platform if you go slow so whatever you want that's my advice when I came out as pan to my dad

Ok thank you

But since your moms cases I recommend either going QUICK or waiting a while because QUICK gets it off your chest and she might be more accepting and slow if you do it subtly along the way she might be accepting

Yeah, I have a tie with rhinestones on it that I could start wearing with a button down shirt when going to a fancy event instead of a dress. Subtle enough in my opinion

I’m just scared, I came out as bisexual and lost privileges and this is a whole new thing

Tell her quick and if she doesn't accept you tell her that she is your mom and she should accept you for who you are

I do, but since family is well… family the fear of it getting to my mom somehow is overwhelming. It doesn’t help that my bestie is sheltered so I can’t really talk to her (I don’t blame her, it’s not her it’s her parents and I know she would be supportive, but still) and out of my other two close friends I’ve had some fall outs with one so I’m scared she might snitch on me. I don’t think friend #3 deserves all my emotional sh*t but idk

Ah that's just "stuff" um well HECK maybe try the quick and easier said than done idea or subtle hints? That's the best I can think of but at least this case is easier than crabdads

Honestly that seems simple enough, but could end BADLY

She is heavily Christian and has a huge authority thing, the classic “that’s disrespectful to your mom” but turned up to 100%

I swear, If I got a dollar for every time she said “it’s not about you it’s about me” to something that is definitely about me….
Example: I went to a family member’s graduation and conversation lead to her saying that about my future graduation

Oh god that's not good in any way at all, um well do you have other family that's not like that?