Some people ALMOST get it...

Almost, yeah-
Wish they'd get it entirely.

Male and female aren't genders... Girl and boy are if that's what you mean?

"Well yes, but actually no."

somebody can be male but be a girl.

Right. Hence the reason the punch line is "Well yes, but actually no."

yes but wheres the actually no part

[image deleted] The joke is there. If you don't get it, I'm not going to try to explain it to you.

The two things are not related like at all, therefor the use of the meme makes no sense.

i mean i believe that there are 2 genders so....

Science says otherwise.
https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/voices/stop-using-phony-science-to-justify-transphobia/

they are born male or female

Did you read the SCIENTIFIC paper? It says otherwise. :-P~ Reality is both simpler and more complex than the dualistic smooth-brain thinking that says everything must come in opposite pairs.

sure