AN EVENT I DON'T WANT TO GO TO, BUT GOES ANYWAY BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO HURT THE HOST'S FEELIGS; ME; AN EVENT I DON'T WANT TO GO TO, BUT GOES ANYWAY BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO HURT THE HOST'S FEELIGS; PROBLEMS SHOWING UP, GIVING ME GOOD EXCUSES SO DON'T NEED TO GO; HAPPY ME, ACTING SAD SO I DON'T HURT THE HOST'S FEELING