two men who love each other is different from pedophilia because they are consenting, where usually the child isn't. even if the child is, they're too young to be in relationships with adults, who can manipulate emotions. children haven't reached sexual maturity yet. Unlike gender, age has lines between what can be allowed and what can't when it comes to relationships. If you're born with an attraction to children, that affects others too, unlike if you're born with an attraction to people of the same gender, etc.