you first check if they support lgbtq+
then u should slide into it: you can make a joke about lgtbq+ stuff
if you are coming out about gender u can say "i know you have known me as ___ but I feel that I am actually _____ and these pronouns make me happy."
for sexuality you could say: "this could be hard for you but I have to come out to you, otherwise it feels like I am hiding myself from you. i am ____"
good luck!